TANTRA a real sacrifice for happiness

In the first stage, the fundamental problem that a man engaged on the Tantric erotic path has to face is “ejaculating” versus “not ejaculating” – for many practitioners this is a constant source of confusion.
The main purpose of Tantra has always been finding a direct path towards inner  freedom by using all of the resources that were endowed to us by God and taking the extremely long road that requires a pilgrimage through a great number of re-incarnations.
Basing its teachings and concepts on the observation of the fact that Eros is at the basis of human existence and that represents the motivating force for all human achievements, the authentic Tantric tradition maintains the idea that a human being needs to confront and master this primordial force, using it in a creative manner.
Tantric masters teach us that one must not deny the inner urge to make love, but use it to make  life a better and a more fulfilled experience in our journey throughout the years.
There have always been numerous people who have interpreted the sexual Tantric writings in different manners and often one interpretation will contradict the other.
For instance, on one hand there are those who prefer to interpret these texts on a purely allegorical level, as a reflection of some inner process, of some communion that does not necessarily involve physical intimacy.
Still, Tantra is a spiritual path based on lovemaking, which sustains the practice of sexual continence .
Tantra  Sexual continence implies that both man and woman should avoid the loss of their sexual energy during lovemaking, a loss materialized in the case of a man through ejaculation, and in the case of a woman an explosive orgasm followed by the discharge of sexual energy and fluids.
Common lovemaking (involving ejaculation) is at best only suitable for people who do not have enough  faith and for whom it is truly difficult to see lovemaking as a sacred act.
Before beginning to practice sacred  love and lovemaking, such people should first change their views on Eros by adding a spiritual dimension to it, in addition to the physical one.
They have to purify their bodies and their minds and to bring more spirituality into their lives.
They can do this by changing their ways, by spending more time in the company of spiritual people, by adopting a vegetarian diet, by reading sacred books, by practicing yoga – yogic breath and meditation – as well as by cultivating a new and positive attitude towards eros and spirituality.
During this preparation, it is best if one avoids sexual activity for a while. Only thus can one obtain maximum tantric results.
Sexual continence implies the retention of the sperm and sexual secretions (in the case of women the menstruating blood and the liquids secreted during lovemaking) inside one’s body and then transmuting and transforming  them to the body temperature.
Through the transmutation process a refined energy  is produced, energy that can easily be transformed inside the body  into more refined energies.
Sexual continence represents an important aspect, necessary for Tantric rituals to be truly fruitful.
Tantrics recommend that man preserve his sperm, because this leads to an increase in his physical and spiritual power.
Through the sexual techniques specific to an authentic Tantric path, men learn to consciously refrain from ejaculation, to channel their erotic energy inwards, and to fully satisfy their lovers.
Only after they have achieved such capacities they will they be able to obtain authentic  tantric achievements.