Why cumming is not as good as it may feel and what to do about it

Why cumming is not as good?

Here in Bucharest there are plenty of relaxation solutions. In our massage saloon we offer erotic massage, also known as tao erotic massage or oriental massage. One of our big “problem” is about “to cum or not to cum”….

There’s bad news and there’s good news about cumming. Let’s start with the bad ones and move on to the good.

Cumming is not good for you; neither for your physical nor for your psycho-emotional health. As you may already know, sperm is processed blood; due to the processing, it is actually concentrated blood, by which we mean that in order to make a certain quantity of sperm, the body uses way more blood. This is why if you cum several times in a row and you don’t allow your body to regenerate, you end up ejaculating blood (really hoping you haven’t experienced this). So, basically, whenever you cum it’s like you’re donating blood…only without serving a good cause and having the good feeling of maybe having saved lives.

How does this affect you?

The body’s capacity to regenerate is limited, meaning that, in time, it will no longer be able to produce sperm, and this leads to impotence. The time is takes to get there varies from man to man, due to various differences such as health, vitality, diet, stress and so on. Fact still remains, though, that every time you cum you “use up” your body’s resources.

Before hitting impotence, there’s several other undesirable effects that occur. It should be obvious that it affects your body’s vitality. This is why we have the typical picture of him falling asleep after sex, when she would feel like talking and cuddling. She hasn’t lost any blood when orgasming (that is if she reached orgasm), so she’s fine. But his body’s just lost a huge amount of energy, so it needs to refuel and rest. This is why most women can have multiple orgasms and most men can’t. Depending on how much and how often you cum, your body is more or less exhausted, you may get to lack various vitamins, may need to sleep more, eat more, you may get dehidrated. And while on the spot it may not seem like much of a loss, on the long run the process is irreversible and you will not be able to regenerate all the resources you’ve lost.

Of course, given the fact that the human being is a whole, this doesn’t just affect your body alone. The exhaustion your body’s experiencing influences your psycho-emotional well being. For example, the fact that sex lowers your stress level is not entirely true. Its effects are only momentary and due to the hormons your brain produces when experiencing pleasure. However, in time, cumming lowers stress resilience. It has somewhat the same effects as tireness does, it’s just that regular ejaculation has an overall tiring effect, that is, it reduces your level of vitality alltogether. So when you think you are rested, you are actually more tired than you used to be some months before and when you really feel tired, you’re exhausted compared to what “tired” used to mean. This implies that your focus will diminish, your power of will as well, you may begin to feel moody, losing your temper easier (your aggression level rises), you may become less efficient, less creative; your level of empathy may also decrease and you may find that you no longer have the resources to care, to be affectionate, to manifest sympathy and so on. In some severe cases it may lead to depression and feelings of helplessness.

Given the fact that this has turned out to be quite a big problem, there must be at least one solution. And here come the good news. We are by no means suggesting that abstinence is the answer. No, sir! Love-making has a huge range of beneficial physical and emotional effects, plus, it is so pleasant and beautiful, it would be a pity to give it up.

What to do about cumming?

What we are suggesting, however, is that, unless you intend to procreate, you avoid cuming. This does not imply giving up orgasms. Due to the fact that the nervous centres in charge of orgasm and of ejaculation are different, with practice, men can disociate the two and thus orgasm without cumming, this giving them the opportunity to have multiple orgasms, just like women do.

We will come back to how to do that later and first talk a bit about what physiologically happens when you do it. Some believe that one needs to ejaculate at least from time to time, in order to keep his sperm “fresh” and healthy. And while it is true that sperm can get old and degenerate, one does not need to cum in order to avoid that. With practice, you can get to transmute your sperm. This is a natural physical process that sometimes happens without you even knowing. This is one of the reasons why you sometimes cum a smaller quantity than other times. What actually happens is that your sperm cells are disintegrated, process that triggers a certain discharge of energy, energy that is then spread in your body. It’s like a miny explotion. This way, all the energy contained in your sperm is re-integrated in your body, instead of being wasted in ejaculation. Also, this means that your body will need to regenerate sperm, to renew it. The diffeence is that this time your resources haven’t been used up, but re-circulated in the system. This is also why you won’t get “blue balls” if you orgasm without cumming.

Coming back to the how.

In order to understand the how, we need to go a bit into modern physics and sciences. All the experiments on the nature of light and how it changes from particle to wave according to the observer, Schrodinger’s famous thought experiment with the cat, William Tiller’s intention imprinted electrical device – all prove that thought is an energy, a force that can and does influence matter. This is also how the placebo effect can be explained. And this is how you can transmute your sexual potential at will.

We will now present 2 methods of transmuting your sperm and re-integrating the resulting energy in your body, one to be done during intercourse, and the other to be practised daily as much as possible, regardles of where you are.

During intercourse, the key element is to not obsessively focus your attention in your genitalia, but rather relax and feel how the pleasure expands in your whole body. Fill your entire body with the experience of pleasure, direct it upwards, till the very top of your head and let your brain enjoy the fireworks. When you get very close to the orgasm, stop moving. If you got close enough, it will automaticlly trigger, and if you stopped soon enough your ejaculation nervous centre will not be activated, thus, you will not cum. In the intensity of the orgasm, breathe deeply and continue to focus your attention upwards. The intensity will transmute your sperm and your focus will redirect the resulting energy in your body.

An exercise you can do everyday, whenever you have a bit of time to kill, will help you focus better and train your body for transmutation. Get seated in a comfortable position or even lay down on your back, keeping your spine straight. You may close your eyes if that helps you focus. Relax. Clear your mind. Focus on your breath. When you inhale, contract your genital muscles and visualise how your sperm is transmuted. When you exhale, relax your genital muscles and spread the energy resulted from the transmutation upward, in your entire body, especially to your heart and brain. Don’t worry if you find it hard to focus at first, it is natural. You’ll see that with practice it will get easier and easier.

With perseverence, you will see that these exercise will enhance enormously your sexual performance and your lucky lady will begin to feel luckier and luckier…

If you are more interested about this don’t hesitate to contact us for a reservation of oriental massage or, why not, an erotic massage close to your location….